of mixed marriage
A good friend asked me how different it is being married to someone of a different race. Frankly, I dont really know how to answer her question simply because i couldnt care less of this ‘race’ thing. “the race of the future will be a composite, composed of the many different races on earth today. Let us also remember that all men are ultimately of one blood.” by end of the day we are just human beings on a borrowed time living on this place called earth.
20 years of marriage to my bidayuh guy should give me some authority to give my two cents (five cents, remember we have to round up the figures now huh) worth on mixed marriage..i guess.
If you are considering marrying someone who has been raised in a different faith tradition, whatever that might be, you should know that this may be a source of pain both for you and your spouse, but also for your families. believe me it will happen . believing,trusting and supporting each other is the key factor to overcome this initial phase of your married life.
marrying outside of one’s traditional and cultural believe will require us to quickly adapt to the lifestyle of both families. we end up celebrating all cultural festivals of both sides. definitely no problem in who gets to balik kampung during aidil fitri!
we have the best of both world when bringing up our children. they grew up with a wider perspective. whenever they were asked of their race…bidayuh was as foreign as it can be to many people, they learned to reply ..malaysian ….instead!
whatever it is, i have never regretted this mixed marriage, in fact i learned to be more tolerant, patient and more conscious of our beliefs and faith.
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